The society, rather we have this inherent desire in us to fix everything that seems broken to our eyes, or on the verge of breaking. Be it a person’s personality or the person’s orientation of nature/character or sexuality.
This is where we misunderstand.
Not everything needs fixing.
A person’s nature, or what makes a person is not a sign of weakness that needs to be fixed.
When a person asks for help, but only when necessary does not mean that the person is arrogant or too weak minded to ask for help. There is another way to see it: the person enjoys his independence and the feeling of being able to do things by himself. Why would you want to fix that?
When a person chooses silence and solitude over meaningless late night conversation does not mean that the person is moody, depressed or shunning the society. There is another way to see it: the person enjoys whatever little time and space he gets after a long day, and that probably this is his way of recharging his batteries. Why would you want to fix that?
When a person is quiet and refuses to share every tiny details of his day or his problems does not mean that the person is egoistic. There is another way to see it: the person is a private person and enjoys his privacy very much. Why would you want to fix that?
When a person is straightforward and speaks his mind does not mean that the person is judgmental.There is another way to see it: the person is choosing to be honest with you and sharing himself with you. Would you rather have the person lie to you? Why would you want to fix that?
A person’s choice of religion, methods to deal with stuff his way, his ideas, his core, his sexuality, his obsessions, his everything is what makes a person.
Why would you want to fix anything in a person when there probably is nothing to fix? Why would you want to alter your friend’s nature?
Like Ayn Rand wrote, “When you force a man to act against his own choice and judgment, it’s his thinking that you want him to suspend.” – John Galt
Just let the person, rather, your friend be.
Either accept the way your friend is, or you are welcome to simply walk away.